Did you know there was a day dedicated to enjoying the pleasure of a kiss? July 6th is International Kissing Day! International kissing day started in the United Kingdom and since spread throughout the world to become known as World Kissing Day to some.
One of my most memorable kisses happened when I was 17 years old. I went on a date with a guy who used to send letters to me through my cousin. At the end of our date he asked if he could kiss me. I hesitantly consented – I’d had a good time and was not sure if a kiss would somehow lessen the experience – and I was glad I did. My date gently put his hands around my waist, pulled me into him and softly kissed my forehead. It was the sweetest kiss I’d ever had. I was smitten and we dated for the next several years.
It’s true when they say there’s a lot in a kiss. You may realize that you have great chemistry with someone you’ve known forever, yet never thought of in a romantic or sexual way, by simply kissing them. You just may discover that your friend is beasty and just what you need. Or it may be that you think you’re attracted to someone until you kiss them and you feel about as much as you would had you been kissing a fish. Either way, a kiss can tell you a lot about how you feel about someone.
In its most basic form kissing is the act of pressing your lips to someone else’s body, often times on the lips as well. Notice I did not say which lips as both are certainly kissable. That’s one of the best things about a kiss; it can be planted anywhere on the body with enthusiastic consent, of course. Though there are many different types of kisses they tend to fall into 1 of 2 categories:
1) The often simple, closed mouth kiss. Can be done on any part of the body. May signify different things depending on where you plant this type of kiss. It can be an innocent peck on the cheek, a sweet kiss on the forehead, or a gentle and sensual kiss on the lips. In some cultures, people greet one another with a simple kiss on the cheek.
2) The more involved, open mouth kiss. Often done on the mouth, genitals, or anus, yet may be done on any part of the body as well. However, when done on the mouth there may be an exchange of saliva. This type of kiss is commonly referred to as French, TV, or tongue kissing. Other fun names include swapping spit, tongue tango or wrestling. These kinds of kisses may be deeply passionate, just for fun, or somewhere in between.
Kissing is a nice way to show love and affection. It can be a prelude to something more. Kissing can be done to enhance sexual experiences. Kissing is a great way to build and maintain intimacy in romantic and sexual relationships. When you kiss someone, regardless of whom it is you are sending a message that you trust them to a certain extent. You trust them enough to allow them into your personal space during a time that you are likely to have your guard down. Wow, that says a lot!
If there’s a special someone you’ve been hoping and wanting to kiss, International Kissing Day is the perfect excuse to push yourself to do it, with consent, of course. Here are 5 sweet tips for your next kissing debut:
- Think positive and plan ahead by using some sort of lip moisturizer. This will help to ensure that your lips are not chapped and cracked when the time comes.
- If you’re going for an open mouth kiss, it’s a good idea to make sure your breath is fresh. The person you’re kissing will likely appreciate it.
- Take a sip of something, preferably water, to wet your mouth and tongue. There’s nothing worse than getting dry mouth just before the first kiss.
- When that moment finally does come relax yourself and your lips before pursing them. You want your lips to be soft when they touch your partner.
- Do what feels natural as far as closing your eyes or keeping them open. You’d be amazed how often I’m actually asked about this.
Keep in mind that hugs go great with kisses and both are free! I can’t forget to mention that kissing feels fantastic! Happy kissing. Until next time…
Keep it safe and sexy,
Ms. Robin, the Sex Goddess
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